Greater Motherhood

God, Loosen My Grip: A Mother’s Daily Prayer of Surrender

Moms are problem-solvers.  It’s in our DNA to nurture, to correct, and to guide our children.  However, sometimes we overstep and try to control or manipulate the outcome, whether it be their behavior or their actions. 

I’m not proud of the times I’ve stepped on God’s toes as He’s teaching my girls through natural consequences.  I swoop in to fix the problem, often robbing them of the struggle.

Intervening, in order to control, can hinder the move of God in our children’s lives.

I want control.

But I’m not in control.

And you know what?

That is best.

I find comfort in remembering that God’s thoughts and ways are higher.  I love this reminder in Isaiah 55:8-9

 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord.“As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.

So if I really trust His ways and thoughts are higher than mine, then how do I begin to surrender my control?

When I came across this prayer written by Jonathan & Wynter Pitts for the ministry For Girls Like You, I just had to share. This prayer is an answer to the daily burden I carry. 

I read this prayer aloud before bed each night in an act of intentional surrender to a God who will grow my kids into who He is calling them to be.


Dear God,

I release my daughter into Your care.

I surrender my desire to control her.
I surrender my desire to manipulate her future.
I surrender my tendency to overprotect, shelter, and suffocate her.
I surrender my desire to be her best friend, first.
I surrender my own dreams for her.
I surrender my need to be her source.

SHE IS YOURS.

I’m totally open to You, dependent upon You, and desperate for You to be in control as I let go. I’m relying on the fact that You are God and that You have created my daughter for Your purpose and for this time.

I pray that You will draw her to Yourself.
I pray that she will delight in You.
I pray that You will be patient with her.
I pray that You will provide for her.
I pray that You will bless her.
I pray that You will use her to be a blessing to others.
I pray that You will mature her.
And ultimately, I pray that she will show Jesus in her very being.

I trust in Your sovereignty. I wait in expectation for Your providence.
Lord, she is Yours, and I trust You with her. 


 

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Lord, help me loosen my grip.  You are trustworthy.    

We’re in this together!

Julie

 

 

This prayer by Jonathan Pitts can be found here.

 

Greater Motherhood

Call a Timeout!

“Mom, what if I fall off the beam in front of everyone?”

“Mom, I need you at my first out-of-state gymnastics meet!”

“Mom, if you don’t go, who’ll make my hair bun? Dad can’t.”

MOTHERHOOD

The gymnastics meet was seven hours away. I did the math. It was impossible. Two kids, each with paramount events, and I couldn’t swing her gymnastics meet and her sister’s volleyball tournament and pageant. I didn’t want to disappoint our gymnast, but I was also needed by our high school freshman.

I often feel like I’m the one on a balance beam. I wobble while trying to remember to look forward, keeping my eyes focused on Jesus. My children need me to stay calm through the unsteady moments. Sometimes it’s fear that threatens my balance, other times it’s an overcommitted calendar. Simultaneously, I’m supposed to help build their faith, answer questions, discipline behavior, and navigate hormones.

Can I just call a timeout?

The answer is yes, I can. You can, too.

PRAYER

I needed a timeout. I needed to ask God how to make this upcoming, stressful weekend successful. He met me right where I was, turning His ear to me. Prayer isn’t complicated. I didn’t have to do back handsprings to find the perfect, quiet place. I just needed a moment.

I love David’s prayer in Psalm 17. There is a simple truth tucked within the verse – when we call on God, He answers.

I call on You, my God, for You will answer me; turn Your ear to me and hear my prayer. (Psalm 17:6, NIV)

You see, our praying habit kicks in as we choose to lean on Scripture and claim the promises that our feelings can’t always conjure up. Prayer is the key. As moms, we cannot and should not, face this motherhood calling without daily, fervent prayer.

MOMS IN PRAYER

Every Tuesday morning, I lead a Moms in Prayer group. Like warriors stepping onto a battlefield, we fight for our children. I imagine the enemy’s face defeated as we begin to praise and walk in obedience to the Lord’s command to pray. Satan’s plans are thwarted with each word of life we speak according to our authority in the Lord.

Tuesday, I awoke knowing I would have one-on-one intercessory prayer time with another mom. To win the battles we face as moms, we must be on the battlefield and armed with prayer. Using the four steps, we prayed scriptures over our children. Confidently, we inserted their names into the very promises of God. I spoke the burdens of my heart for my daughter’s upcoming meet.

The what-ifs, possibilities of falling, point deductions, and weak ankle were all fear’s way of rocking my girl’s confidence and robbing her of peaceful sleep. Working as a pair, this mom and I prayed the truth that proclaimed my girl did not need to fear. Inserting my daughter’s name into Isaiah 41:10 (NASB), we prayed aloud,

“Do not fear [my daughter], for I am with you; do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.

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